No matter what you celebrate, the holiday season can sometimes feel overwhelming. By prioritizing what’s most important to you and your family, you can take control of the craziness and create the experiences you want. After all, the holidays should be about finding joy, not hanging on for the ride. You don’t have to do everything: Try making a list of the emotions you hope to cultivate this season—joy, peace, generosity—and the ones you don’t—stress, anger, envy. Any time a new request arrives (Can you staff the office holiday party? Can you attend four events in one day?), return to your list, refocus on your priorities and make your decision from a clear mindset.
If you tend to get stressed-out during the holidays, try these tips and tricks to feel balanced and under control.
1. Be yourself. Skip the minefield of comparing yourself to others. Sure, it can seem as though everyone else has the perfect cookies, the better-organized home and the more harmonious family—when you are looking in from the outside. Don’t torture yourself by comparing your own life to your observations about the lives of others. Instead, be positive about the things you do well, and do the things you enjoy.
2. Manage expectations. Keep yourself on track throughout the holiday season by carefully setting priorities. You can’t fit in everything, but you can consciously focus on doing activities that are important to you (and only those things). This mindset can help keep you joyful, instead of harried.
3. Get enough sleep. No more late-night cookie baking or emergency wrapping sessions—you can’t have a good time if you are exhausted and irritable. By focusing on what you do well and what you enjoy, and strategizing about what activities you choose to engage in, you can hopefully knock off some of the holiday “filler.” This will free you up to take care of yourself so the holiday weeks are fun ones.
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